Raising An Autistic Son: Four Things I’d Change

My son is a successful sophomore in high school and I wouldn’t change a single thing about him now. He was diagnosed with Autism at age 2 and received countless hours of speech and occupational therapy to get where we are today. Often as he goes through life’s milestones, I reflect back on how much we have learned and how much our family has grown. Along with that, I often think about things I would have done differently. I share some of these thoughts with you as I look back on his upbringing that knowing what I know now, I may have done differently then.


1. Talk about the issue with others.

When we received Joshua’s diagnosis we were committed to getting the services he needed for success. I think that everyone knew that something was different with Joshua. In hindsight, the signs were obvious, but when you are in the moment, you tend to brush off the lack of eye contact, the flapping, or other noticeable behaviors. This is not about denial…this is about telling friends and family what was going on so that they could learn tools and techniques for communicating with our son. Plus, we knew the more people encouraged eye contact, talked with Joshua, etc., the higher rate of success for Joshua to communicate.

2. Let him use some signs.

Again – hindsight is 20/20 and parents of any child may think of things they would do differently.  But this was one where I think I was just being stubborn and insistent that our son use words to get his needs met. His frustration was high and I think I could have decreased that simply by having a few signs he could use to get his basic needs met. Asking for things like milk, a favorite toy, or movie could have made his life a little easier.

3. Skip the birthday parties.

Okay…maybe not skip them but maybe make them smaller? He hated them – I mean really hated them.  As we watch home movies you can see the anxiety in everything he does.  He didn’t even like opening presents with everyone crowding around him. He didn’t like singing happy birthday and he didn’t like everyone in his house.

4. Not worry about handwriting.

I am not trying to upset any educators with this comment at all. I think writing is critical. But our son had such a hard time with fine motor skills that we would have him practicing writing over and over and over. (And over). Now he types everything – probably faster than I do – and that’s the best way for him since his writing is quite dreadful (no offense).

If you are raising a child as you read this, keep in mind that for you it might not be sign language or hand writing – it might be things like letting them drink soda or have 10 of their favorite toy. If you have raised kids, particularly special needs kids, is there something you would do differently?  Feel free to share in the comments.

Pam has had the pleasure of being Chief Operating Officer for the Content Marketing Institute since its inception in 2007. She oversees day-to-day operations and has a pretty easy job simply because of the outstanding talent of the rest of the CMI team. She loves getting feedback and learning what works and what doesn’t in this ever-changing industry, so feel free to contact her anytime. She is also a great go-to person for the event Content Marketing World. Finally, she is always willing to talk about her passion, The Orange Effect Foundation of which she is the Executive Director.

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